Claudia Johnson - Author

would like to start this article with a question: Are you living your Dream Lifestyle? Now, when you read that question what goes through your mind? Is your mind filled with all the things that went wrong in your life that resulted in a less fulfilling lifestyle? When you are asked a questions such as, “Did you go to college?”, does your response start with. “No, because?” The words “no because” being used in your vocabulary mean one simple thing: You are a victim to your outside circumstances! Plain and simple.

If being a victim to outside circumstances still means very little to you, allow me to explain. It basically means that you are in bondage to circumstance and have no control over your life! It means that you blame your results in life on someone or something else. It means that you do not realize the true meaning of personal responsibility. The fact that you are responsible to every single thing, whether good or bad, that has happened to you. Realize that there is a thin line between what you can and cannot control. Being a victim means that you have lost control, or your thoughts and of your results!

You see, no matter what environment you are in, you choose your reaction. The same comes with personal responsibility for your results, you must first accept the results you have created for yourself, and then move on. Instead of saying, “I didn’t become a millionaire in the age of the Internet because……of the investment, I don’t know anything about computers, or I didn’t have enough time! I would have married that girl but….I was stabbed in the back by my best friend, I had braces and didn’t think she’d like me, or had a bald spot. None of that matters. All that matters is that you had enough ambition, enough passion, enough drive to see what you want, visualize the success, and make it happen. Did the guy who became a self-made millionaire let two bankruptcies, a bad credit score, or the opinions of others stop him from achieving his goal? I would like to think not!

Changing this one principle will change your world drastically. You will find that your life will have a new and revived meaning. You will become more passionate and your results will improve in your favor. You will also become more positive and self reliant. But in order for you to change, you have to learn to control your thoughts. It sounds simple, right? To change the phrase, “I missed that last shot in the state championship because of a bad pass from Joe” to “I missed that last shot in the state championship but I won’t miss the next one!” Look back on your life and take responsibility for all your wins and losses. If you can master this one principle, success in one step closer to being yours and your life will drastically improve! It all involves controlling your thoughts. I once heard, “Control your thoughts, control your world!” I couldn’t say it any better than that!

My name is David Allred and I wish you a wealthy life. I am all about teaching people to own their lives. So many people are renting their lives away to employers, jobs or businesses for less than 10% of what they are worth. You deserve more than that. Your family deserves more than that.

Yes it’s time for “be a victim 101″ and I hope you are ready for your lesson. Be warned, some of this content may be just a tad personal, hysterical, and damn right tactless, but what the heck lets get into then shall we?

Lesson One: Give away your personal Power

This is the first and most important in the lessons of staying a victim. This will set the course for your future in this role and if you can get this down pact, your sure to be a winner.

Giving away personal power can involve almost all of your life if you want it to. Had a stink upbringing - blame your parents. Didn’t get the right job, blame your parents for not pushing you at school. Got bullied in the play ground, blame yourself for being, not big enough, tall enough, smart enough, or tough enough. Too fat? Blame your parents for your bad eating habits or your big bones. Got into a bad relationship? Blame your partner for not giving you what you want. Think your too dumb, beat yourself up about it, do nothing and blame everybody else for your situation in life.

Lesson Two: Have a Pity Party

Ahh pity parties, don’t you just love them. You can have them any day or night and you don’t even have to invite anybody if you wish. They go something like this.

“hmm, should I apply for that job? But what if I get turned down? Then I will feel really stink that I told four people about it and I will look silly and I am silly already, and probably not smart enough anyhow to even apply for the job. Just like the other day when all those people were talking about that stuff that I didn’t understand. I’m so dumb, I just couldn’t say anything. Maybe it was the outfit I was wearing, I probably looked really fat and like a total looser. I might as well have a big L painted on my forehead because all I ever to is attract crap into my life. Especially when it comes to relationships, they are either non existent or complete weirdo’s. I don’t think that anyone will ever love me. I will go all my life with out love. That’s how it seems to go, everybody leaves, no one wants to be with me cause I suck and I am stupid!!!

(Break out the champagne and miniature violins!)

Lesson Three: Let Your Troubles be your Theme Song.

Scene 1: Your at a dinner party with friends and you meet someone new. It goes something like this:

Bob: Hey you, how is it going? How long have you known Bill and Ben?

You: Hi, oh about 3 years, but I have been out of touch with them since my abusive relationship, mental breakdown, anxiety, loss of job and relationship breakup. How long have your known them for?

Bob: Is that the gravy burning?

Scene 2: Your co-worker asks innocently how you are, you say:

“oh well, you know how it is… still struggling with life, it is an effort every day but there is nothing I can do about it, just got to grin and bare it. But you know, I will manage somehow, not really sure how but I will survive”

Lesson Four: Thou Artful Dodger

After singing your troubles to all in sundry, you can expect some interference from others who (by their nosy nature) will try and fix things for you. It will go something like this:

You: I just can’t seem to get interested about anything…..nothing makes me happy. I should just curl up and die….

Annoying fixit person: “Well why don’t you go do a course.”

You: “I’m too afraid to leave the house.”

Annoying fixit person: “You can do study extramural.”

You: “I can’t afford it.”

Annoying fixit person: “Work and Income can help you with study or there is a student loan.”

You: “I can’t afford the extra bus fare to Work and Income.”

Annoying fixit person: “I can take you in my car.”

You: “But I have claustrophobia, can’t do small spaces.”

Annoying fixit person: siiiggghhh

You: (he he victory, now go away!)

Lesson Five: Be a People Pleaser

Well this is an easy one. Just say yes, yes, yes and yes to everyone. Saying no is not in your repartee. Because saying no would just make you feel guilty, and we can’t have that now can we? Say yes to everyone, and then blame them later for feeling used. This then takes you back to lesson one - giving away personal power. And once this is achieved you can go through to lesson two - having a pity party, feeling sorry for yourself and indulging in your own sorrow. Of course having a pity party alone can be somewhat boring so you are best to search out someone to relay your troubles to, hence moving right into lesson three - Let your troubles be your theme song. So once your have found some willing ears to indulge with, go for it! Purge all of your blame and negativity onto this (unfortunate) person. Sing your song and shed some tears if you must. Who can blame you? Everyone just uses you don’t they? They are all mean users! You are such a good person and such a giving person, and you cannot understand why time after time people just walk all over you. You might as well have DOORMAT tattooed on your forehead right? Because people pleasers always get walked over.

So, after some woe is me singing you will then find your self at lesson four - thou artful dodger. Yes your troubles are now at the hands of the annoying fixit person. You only wanted them to listen right? You didn’t actually want any constructive criticism did you? Of course not, but you will get it and you will think of everything in your power to avoid or accept their helpful suggestions. Why? Because you are a victim. Your world is a safe place, and it is safe because you do not have to move from it. Never ever, ever. You can bask in the sun of your glorious comfort, never moving an inch to change things and accepting that life just “happens” to you. You, of course never make it happen. Stay in the box of victim, slap on some sticky tape a “fragile” sticker and stay there. It might get a little dusty and dark, but what the heck, no one can challenge you can they? No one can find you here. It is SAFE. You have given away your personal power, wallowed in your own self pity and purged yourself to all and sundry. The end result? Anger and criticism of everyone else especially your self. No moving forward in life. And an inner bitterness and negativity that will haunt you forever.

It’s great being a victim isn’t it??

“Is that the gravy burning?”

Sharleen Berryman - Author

ob interview techniques can be some of the most valuable skills for someone who is seeking a new job to learn.

Unfortunately, many overlook simple essential steps they can learn in order to maximize their chance to get the job they want. All it takes is a little job interview knowledge.

So I’ve taken the liberty of compiling a list of common job interview questions that one can use to study and learn how to answer.

The better prepared you are, the better the chance

you get the job! Make sure you read through all of

them.

* What is your name and educational qualifications?

* From where did you complete your education?

* What is the role that you wish to work for in our

company?

* Do you suppose that you can get this job?

* Where did you work before this?

* Do you wish to have a stable and permanent job with our company or would you leave it after sometime?

* What do you think is more important for you, the payment, the job satisfaction, the job security, or convenience?

* What is your last drawn salary?

* What are your expectations from us? How much should be we pay you if we appoint you?

* How much do you know about our company?

* Do you have any medical or fitness, problems? Would you be comfortable at work?

* What are your other interests and hobbies?

* Can you tell us something about your analytical abilities; refer to a few examples of when you applied your abilities in the past?

* What are the long-term goals that you have?

* What are short-term goals that you have?

* Where do you think you would be five years from now?

* Why do you think that you are an able person for this job?

* Why did you quit your previous job?

* What is a team player?

* Can you present examples from the past when you proved to be a team player?

* How would you handle a argument with a colleague?

* Can you site a few examples from the past, when you avoided an argument, on your own?

* Can you describe some interesting incident that occurred during your previous job?

* What do you guess you can achieve by working with this company?

* Where you do stay?

* Would you be comfortable if you undergo a transfer in the future?

* (If long) would you be comfortable with coming so away from your place?

* Would you like to know something about this company?

Keep in mind the questions asked in the interview are of different types according to the requirement of the job. The interview can be divided into two types according to the skills, which are tested. These types are the general interview and the technical interview. The questions asked in the general interview are common for any kind of job. In this round of interview, the candidate is tested for his communication skills and confidence.

The above are examples of general questions.

These are only the common personal questions that are frequently asked for all the types of jobs in companies or firms. These may be asked by a separate interviewer who is especially present for these questions. The other technical questions are asked by the technical interviewers.

While answering these questions it is important that your answers depict clear and professional thinking. They should be answered confidently.

If you want to ensure you’re the one selected for the job, make sure you learn everything you can about job interview techniques! They can save your butt and guarantee you a new, better job.